I am a gay person who has been in a relationship for 28 years. I can no longer sit back and listen to the judgmental comments that are being tossed about by Utah's governor, Gary Herbert and others that are against same-sex marriage.

But let's not delude ourselves, we all know who is putting the pressure on our elected officials and the Governor's office; the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

The two primary reasons stated against same-sex marriage are:

1. Same-sex couples are harmful to children and not fit to raise them.

2. Same-sex marriage defiles the sanctity of traditional marriage.

It should be known, if a same-sex couple or any gay person decides they want to have children and become a family it is not something done without a lot of consideration and expense. Same-sex couples must make a huge commitment to proceed on all levels to have children. We, unlike heterosexual couples, cannot just have babies without conscience or "accidentally" without any regard to the child's future, including economically. Also, same-sex couples wanting to adopt are usually denied the option, and, in those few cases when an adoption is allowed to proceed, it is not without considerable expense and extra red tape that heterosexual couples do not go through. In addition, same-sex couples have to legally make arrangements for their children in the event of a spouse's death among other countless legalities. My point being family planning for same-sex couples does not come lightly and is only considered after extensive thought and planning.

Now for the unpopular facts which I call upon you to consider and roll around in your mind for a time.

Keith Brown, the patriarch of The 5 Browns, a musically gifted and talented family was charged with molestation of his three daughters and is sentenced to 10 years in prison.

In 2005, Mark Hacking was charged with the murder of his wife, Lori, and of dumping her body in the landfill. He was sentenced to life in prison.

Dec. 6, 2006, Josh Powell's wife, Susan, was reported missing and has not been found to date. Josh Powell is a suspect in her disappearance. He later incinerated himself and their two little angel sons in a house fire.

In November, 2013, Martin McNeill, a doctor, was charged with drugging and murdering his wife, Michele, by drowning her in their bathtub.

The list goes on and on but you get the point.

All of these people were in a heterosexual relationship, raising children and traditionally married.

Also, I, in no way felt any satisfaction if I disrespected the friends and family members of those listed above. It was not my intention to do so but we too are fighting for our lives. (Research the death of Mathew Sheppard as the victum of a hate crime). Just to name one of many.

It would seem to me the only people killing each other, defiling the sanctity of marriage and being unfit to raise children are heterosexuals. Let the record speak for itself.

Look, we gay folks are a kind and gentle people. We've had no choice in way we were born and who we were born as, just like the rest of you. When we were born God decided the path we were given and we do the best we can with it, just like the rest of you do. All we want is really very simple. That is to be able to love whom we want, just like you do and to have the same rights just like you do. And we are not going away until this is achieved.

Please, please make these choices with your heart and change your minds about someone. This is a human issue and not a gay issue.