Amy Roberts: Installing version 4.2
I’ve spent the last 41 years wishing my birthday was in June, or that I was conceived by a virgin. Because when your birthday is in December and your name isn’t Jesus no one gets too excited about it.
But now, with my birthday peeking out from behind next week’s curtain, I have decided to embrace my birth month. After all, the end of a year is an ideal time for self-reflection and measurement of personal growth. As such, here are the top lessons, observations and universal truths I’ve come to accept in my (almost) 42 years.
• You will be too much for some people. Those aren’t your people.
• Your progress should never come at someone else’s expense.
• Be careful about following the masses. Sometimes, the ‘m’ is silent.
• Remember, you haven’t come this far to only come this far.
• Timing is everything; whether it’s love, success, or avocados.
• Some things you never get over, you just get through.
• Don’t blindly believe someone who tells you they’re a good person. Wait for them prove it. A lot of people who insist they are a good person are barely capable of being an okay person.
• Life isn’t easy for anyone.
• Don’t let someone’s limited imagination limit you.
• Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.
• Be fearless in the pursuit of anything that sets your soul on fire.
• In the height of your despair, remember life could always be worse — sex could be fattening.
• You are stronger than you think. Always.
• If you want to be happier, make a list of all the things that make you happy. Then make a list of the things you do every day and compare these lists. Adjust accordingly.
• Deciding whether to keep trying or walk away is one of the toughest choices you’ll ever have to make.
• If you aren’t at least a little nervous about some of your choices, you aren’t taking big enough risks.
• You are under no obligation to be the same person you were five years ago, five months ago or five minutes ago. You have the right to grow.
• If you line up all of your exes in a row, you can see the flow chart of your mental illness.
• Sometimes you learn more from one mistake than you ever will from all the things you’ve done right.
• There will always be someone else who gives you butterflies.
• Don’t be afraid to have difficult conversations.
• How people treat you is their karma. How you react to it is yours.
• Grief is the price we pay for love.
• Not everyone will like you, but not everyone matters.
• It’s perfectly acceptable to let your driver’s license expire and wait to renew it until your bangs are grown out. You’re going to have that photo for four years.
• If you think there’s something more, there probably is.
• Don’t confuse your job with your life.
• No matter what you do or say, there’s always going to be at least one person who finds a way to be offended.
• Know your worth and don’t offer anyone a discount.
• No one is truly confident with how they say, “Worcestershire sauce.”
• Not every situation requires your reaction.
• Only date people who don’t panic at the thought of you being left alone with their phone.
• You are not responsible for anyone else’s happiness.
• Own your strengths, talents and your mistakes.
• Every test in life makes us either bitter or better. You get to choose which one.
• Not everyone you lose is a loss.
• Anyone trying to bring you down is already beneath you.
• When disappointed about your job or professional accomplishments, remember that at least one person you went to high school with is still trying to become a rapper.
• Be curious, be brave, be bold. But above all, be you.
Amy Roberts is a freelance writer, longtime Park City resident and the proud owner of two rescued Dalmatians, Stanley and Willis. The opinions expressed in this column are solely those of the writer. Follow her on Twitter @amycroberts.
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