Version 4.1 |

Version 4.1

Red Card Roberts

By Amy Roberts
Park Record columnist 

If all goes as planned, next week I’ll turn 41. For the most part, the previous 40 birthdays have come and gone with little fanfare. Because when your birthday is in December and your name isn’t Jesus, it’s hard to get people excited about it.

I might officially be more than halfway to dead, but my first 40 years gave me quite a bit of text. Now comes the commentary. Here’s a look at the lessons I’ve learned, the ways I’ve grown, and the observations I’ve made since the last time I blew out candles.

• You never know how strong you really are until you have to be.
• Most of the things you want are on the other side of fear.
• Never lose sleep over someone you don’t wake up next to.
• At this age, dating is like, “Are we going to do this or what? Cause I’ve got sh*t to do.”
• How people treat you is their karma. How you react to it is yours.
• Travel as much and as often as you can.
• Grief is the price we pay for love.
• Not everyone will like you, but not everyone matters.
• If you think there’s something more, there probably is.
• Be kind. Everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about.
• It’s better to regret than to wonder.
• No matter what happens, there’s always going to be one person who finds a way to be offended.
• Before you decide you’re depressed or have low self-esteem, first make sure you are not, in fact, just surrounded by a bunch of a**holes.
• Don’t confuse your job with your life.
• If there really is a God and He really wants to deliver a message to all of humanity, it’s unlikely His messenger is going to be someone on a little-known cable station with a bad hairstyle.
• If you didn’t get what you wanted, consider that maybe you weren’t meant to have it.
• You are not responsible for anyone else’s happiness.
• Never put IKEA furniture together with someone you love.
• Successful people know their strengths. Don’t minimize your talents.
• No job is beneath you.
• Sometimes you learn more from one mistake than you ever will from all the things you’ve done right.
• 40 doesn’t seem as old as it did when I was 15.
• The fear of missing out has been replaced with the fear of missing sleep.
• “No” is a complete sentence. And, “So effing what?” is a suitable answer to almost any question.
• You can’t do a great job on work you don’t care about.
• Being kind is far more important than being rich.
• Everyone comes into your life for a reason. Sometimes you’re the student, sometimes you’re the teacher.
• Forgive the people who hurt you, but never forget what they taught you.
• If you start beating yourself up over a bad decision you made, remember that some women marry their death-row pen pals. Then you won’t feel so ashamed about your life choices.
• Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for wanting more.
• Say “yes” to things outside your comfort zone.
• The safest thing you’ll ever do is something you love.
• Don’t make decisions based on fear.
• It’s all going to work out exactly the way it’s supposed to.
• Getting older might suck, but it beats the alternative.

Amy Roberts is a freelance writer, longtime Park City resident, and the proud owner of two rescued Dalmatians, Stanley and Willis. The opinions expressed in this column are solely those of the writer. Follow her on Twitter @amycroberts.

Support Local Journalism

Support Local Journalism

Readers around Park City and Summit County make the Park Record's work possible. Your financial contribution supports our efforts to deliver quality, locally relevant journalism.

Now more than ever, your support is critical to help us keep our community informed about the evolving coronavirus pandemic and the impact it is having locally. Every contribution, however large or small, will make a difference.

Each donation will be used exclusively for the development and creation of increased news coverage.


Start a dialogue, stay on topic and be civil.
If you don't follow the rules, your comment may be deleted.

User Legend: iconModerator iconTrusted User


See more